INSIGHT.
INTEGRITY.
IMPACT.
You have worked too hard to keep getting in your own way.
Performance Psychology for women who expect more from themselves.
With 35 years of expertise, Dr. Darby Bonomi helps high-achieving women move out of their own way and into the lives they have already earned.
ABOUT
When you work with Dr. Bonomi, you have a psychologist on your team.
There is no shortage of coaches, consultants, and mindset trainers promising to help people reach their potential.
What is rare is a psychologist with 35 years of Clinical and Performance Psychology experience who has spent decades inside the high-performance world her clients live in.
Darby Bonomi, PhD, is a licensed Clinical Psychologist, Psychoanalyst, and Performance Psychologist. She has worked with hundreds of competitive equestrians, executives, entrepreneurs, and high-achieving women across disciplines.
Dr. Bonomi brings to her work far more than a framework or a formula. She provides a depth of insight that only comes from decades of clinical training and experience—and from being, herself, a woman who competes, leads, and refuses to shrink.
Her clients come to her with a performance challenge. Dr. Bonomi guides them through a transformation into more clarity, better purpose, and a psychological foundation that holds under pressure.
ABOUT
High achievers.
High performers.
High standards.
Sound familiar?
Dr. Bonomi’s clients are accomplished, driven, and often overly perfectionistic.
They are competitive equestrians and corporate executives, entrepreneurs and professionals. They are individuals who have earned their places at the highest levels of their fields and, yet still catch themselves undermining what they have built.
Many of Dr. Bonomi’s clients come to her for one thing and stay for something they did not expect: a relationship that opens into every area of their lives, because performance, it turns out, is never just about the arena.
High Achievers
If you are someone who has spent years achieving and still carries a quiet sense that you are somehow not enough, Dr. Bonomi’’s work is made for you. You can live a life without the internal chatter holding you back.
Equestrian Athletes
From international competitors to junior riders, Dr. Bonomi has spent decades inside the equestrian world. She knows the pressure, the standards, and what it takes to perform at the highest levels of the sport.
Executives & Business Leaders
Dr. Bonomi works with executives, senior leaders, and entrepreneurs who are navigating high-stakes environments and want their psychological strategies to align with their professional ambition.
Parents
Dr. Bonomi works with parents who recognize that their own drive, ambition and success can unintentionally create challenges for their children. Building a family environment that prepares children for the world today is an intentional practice which Dr. Bonomi helps families establish and maintain.
NOW AVAILABLE
Unshrinkable
Why Strong Women Secretly Criticize, Diminish, and Thwart Themselves—and How to Stop
Darby Bonomi, PhD, draws on 35 years of clinical and Performance Psychology experience to name the pattern she has observed in hundreds of high-achieving women: the quiet, persistent habit of self-undermining that runs beneath visible success.
Unshrinkable is not simply a motivational read. It is a practitioner’s examination of why capable women shrink, and a clear-eyed guide to what the path out looks like.
“A thoughtful and empowering approach to helping women overcome psychological limitations.”
— Kirkus Reviews
Coming Early 2027
Parental Panic
Raising a Successful Adult When Worry is Your Love Language
Highly driven, resourced parents are raising fragile kids. Despite every advantage, a generation is arriving at adulthood brittle, anxious, and lacking in resilience.
Dr. Bonomi shares how over-involvement, intolerance for natural consequences, and the reflexive belief that something is wrong whenever a child struggles erodes the very resilience parents are working so hard to build.
A companion to Unshrinkable: where that book speaks to women who undermine themselves, this one speaks to parents who are inadvertently doing the same to their kids.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
The work goes deeper than you expect.
The results do too.
I came to Darby thinking I needed help navigating a new challenge. What I found was someone who helped me navigate myself. She has an extraordinary gift for naming the stories we tell ourselves without even realizing it—and then helping us make those stories work for us, instead of against us. Darby has helped me channel hard-won courage into the ability to trust myself, and help others do the same.
— M.K., California
I am loving the direction of my business; I am really seeing the fruits of all the work. Darby has helped me so much, and in particular taught me to trust myself. It’s so gratifying to have other professionals, people I respect, also acknowledge what I am doing. I want to thank Darby so much! I will be forever grateful for our work together.
— H.J., New York
Darby has become the ultimate game-changer for my riding. I struggled with overthinking and anxiety after a few bad falls. Darby completely transformed my mental game. Because of her, I’m navigating my feelings with total clarity, managing my trainers with confidence, and Playing Big. Now, every time I put on my red lipstick and enter the ring, I know I’m ready to own it.
— L.V., Kentucky
New heights await you.
Dr. Bonomi works with a select number of highly motivated clients at any given time. If you are ready to explore how working with her can benefit you, get in touch below. She responds personally to every inquiry.